The pamanhikan finally happens!!
FINALLY!!
Why do I say finally? Because it happened more than a year after Fiance proposed AND its already nearing the wedding day!!!
Thank goodness!!
Sa wakas!!
I am so stressed, on sooooooooo many things...
Just now - my USB driver - it sorta crashed? All my files can't be read and are corrupted!!
Shit...
XOXO
Miss B.
Monday, March 9, 2009
Monday, February 23, 2009
Updates! Updates!!
I've recently no time to post, a LOT has happened since my last post.
Fiance and I were able to book the following:
1) I finally decided on a Designer!! After seeing what he drew for me (which took 3 meetings!) I immediately thought he got exactly what I wanted. I never expected to want wearing what he drew but, I loved it!! Gave the downpayment the week after.
2) Videographer - Fiance was instantly sold while talking to our videographer! The agree ment of just getting an on-site video was upgraded to a full wedding coverage!
3) Photobooth - I never thought Fiance will agree to this, but he loves it!!
Right now, I'm having headaches because:
- I'm looking for a good yet affordable florist!
- Looking for a lively band. MIL veto-ed the one Fiance and I want, apparently - he's not too lively for MIL. Magaling pa naman si Johnoy!!
- Looking for a cheap printer for the invites. I've actually found a cheap printer, the problem is, there's this invite that I fell in love with - and when I asked for a quote, the price was still within the budget. When I told Fiance, he just said to me 'I thought ok na tayo sa P55.00/set na invite?' Well, I changed my mind!! Hahaha
- Deciding on a contractor for the renovation of our future home.
- One of our Ninangs will be leaving for a long vacation - thus, we need to buy the fabrics to give to them and to visit that Ninang before she leaves diba? But Fiance and MIL are so bagaaaaaaaaal...
FYI:
Do you know that they haven't set a pamanhikan date yet?
What fun huh?!
STRESS!!!
XOXO
Miss B.
Fiance and I were able to book the following:
1) I finally decided on a Designer!! After seeing what he drew for me (which took 3 meetings!) I immediately thought he got exactly what I wanted. I never expected to want wearing what he drew but, I loved it!! Gave the downpayment the week after.
2) Videographer - Fiance was instantly sold while talking to our videographer! The agree ment of just getting an on-site video was upgraded to a full wedding coverage!
3) Photobooth - I never thought Fiance will agree to this, but he loves it!!
Right now, I'm having headaches because:
- I'm looking for a good yet affordable florist!
- Looking for a lively band. MIL veto-ed the one Fiance and I want, apparently - he's not too lively for MIL. Magaling pa naman si Johnoy!!
- Looking for a cheap printer for the invites. I've actually found a cheap printer, the problem is, there's this invite that I fell in love with - and when I asked for a quote, the price was still within the budget. When I told Fiance, he just said to me 'I thought ok na tayo sa P55.00/set na invite?' Well, I changed my mind!! Hahaha
- Deciding on a contractor for the renovation of our future home.
- One of our Ninangs will be leaving for a long vacation - thus, we need to buy the fabrics to give to them and to visit that Ninang before she leaves diba? But Fiance and MIL are so bagaaaaaaaaal...
FYI:
Do you know that they haven't set a pamanhikan date yet?
What fun huh?!
STRESS!!!
XOXO
Miss B.
Thursday, February 5, 2009
The patience is wearing...
I never thought I'd get to this point.
I never thought she can be so persistent.
I never thought I'd feel this helpless.
I never thought, I never thought of so many things. I especially did NOT consider that MIL would become a problem.
Shit.. (it happens!)
XOXO
Miss B.
I never thought she can be so persistent.
I never thought I'd feel this helpless.
I never thought, I never thought of so many things. I especially did NOT consider that MIL would become a problem.
Shit.. (it happens!)
XOXO
Miss B.
Monday, February 2, 2009
Indifference and Hate
At first I was indifferent, but as things went along - I came to HATE MIL.
Hate is indeed a strong word - but that's how I really feel.
I hate MIL each day that passes.
I dread the day I need to speak to her, on a daily basis....
I HATE her!!
XOXO
Miss B.
Hate is indeed a strong word - but that's how I really feel.
I hate MIL each day that passes.
I dread the day I need to speak to her, on a daily basis....
I HATE her!!
XOXO
Miss B.
Monday, January 19, 2009
Over the weekend..
Over the weekend, I cried buckets.
I felt majorly stressed out! I never imagined that stress would be so draining and taxing!! Nakakapagod ah!!
I felt excited, and then sad, and then more sad in a span of 30 minutes.
I felt so lost and confused.
I felt like giving up.
I've heard so many stressful stories - I never thought that those things would happen to me, but it did!
Last Friday, I've experience my first ever breakdown. I mean, yes - I've surely had breakdowns before but this one, well - it's one for the books! Imagine, keeping the emotion inside for 5 nights! And finally being able to blow up on the 5th night? It was such a relief, but man - it was tiring. I never thought that crying that much was so draining! Hahaha.. But at least something good came out of the breakdown, Fiance was able to apologize to me (for his accusation)
I was able to meet again with Designer2 - He was so much fun! I was accompanied by Maid of Honor (MOH) and she too agreed that Designer2 was more like me. Designer2 asked me to comeback this coming Saturday, so he can start showing me his drawings. I was honestly excited for that!! But when he told me his price - well (I thought it was reasonable, I mean for his caliber -here I go again!) he was a bit more pricey that Designer3. Great. Just Great. So why so sad? Fiance was stupid enough to tell MIL that Desinger3 offered 185K for the whole package - Designer2's price was 212K. That's a huge huge difference right? So now what? Dang it!!
Designer4 was also a relief, he was highly recommened by Ninang1. He was very nice, warm and so fun to talk to. The problem? Well, he's not my style - he drew me a dress that I don't think is 'me'. MOH also thought the same - he was nice and friendly and warm, he also drew well, but it's just not me. I will definitely consider him when things don't go well with Designer2. He gave me a price of 160K
Tomorrow, I will be meeting with Florist1, and on Wednesday with Coordinator, on Thursday I will be going to Videographer2 (Videographer1 gave me an outrageous rate 85K just for an on-site video) to check out their works, and also meet with Florist2.
Wish me luck!!
XOXO
Miss B.
I felt majorly stressed out! I never imagined that stress would be so draining and taxing!! Nakakapagod ah!!
I felt excited, and then sad, and then more sad in a span of 30 minutes.
I felt so lost and confused.
I felt like giving up.
I've heard so many stressful stories - I never thought that those things would happen to me, but it did!
Last Friday, I've experience my first ever breakdown. I mean, yes - I've surely had breakdowns before but this one, well - it's one for the books! Imagine, keeping the emotion inside for 5 nights! And finally being able to blow up on the 5th night? It was such a relief, but man - it was tiring. I never thought that crying that much was so draining! Hahaha.. But at least something good came out of the breakdown, Fiance was able to apologize to me (for his accusation)
I was able to meet again with Designer2 - He was so much fun! I was accompanied by Maid of Honor (MOH) and she too agreed that Designer2 was more like me. Designer2 asked me to comeback this coming Saturday, so he can start showing me his drawings. I was honestly excited for that!! But when he told me his price - well (I thought it was reasonable, I mean for his caliber -here I go again!) he was a bit more pricey that Designer3. Great. Just Great. So why so sad? Fiance was stupid enough to tell MIL that Desinger3 offered 185K for the whole package - Designer2's price was 212K. That's a huge huge difference right? So now what? Dang it!!
Designer4 was also a relief, he was highly recommened by Ninang1. He was very nice, warm and so fun to talk to. The problem? Well, he's not my style - he drew me a dress that I don't think is 'me'. MOH also thought the same - he was nice and friendly and warm, he also drew well, but it's just not me. I will definitely consider him when things don't go well with Designer2. He gave me a price of 160K
Tomorrow, I will be meeting with Florist1, and on Wednesday with Coordinator, on Thursday I will be going to Videographer2 (Videographer1 gave me an outrageous rate 85K just for an on-site video) to check out their works, and also meet with Florist2.
Wish me luck!!
XOXO
Miss B.
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Meetings, meetings..
I have endless meetings!
I don't even know how to schedule them properly.
Meeting with Coordinator next Wednesday after office hours.
Meeting with Florist2 next week, no day and time yet.
Meeting with Designer2 and Designer4 tomorrow afternoon.
I am kinda irritated that Fiance is still not giving me the go signal to book our videographer.
Time is running out and I think Fiance forgets.
XOXO
Miss B.
I don't even know how to schedule them properly.
Meeting with Coordinator next Wednesday after office hours.
Meeting with Florist2 next week, no day and time yet.
Meeting with Designer2 and Designer4 tomorrow afternoon.
I am kinda irritated that Fiance is still not giving me the go signal to book our videographer.
Time is running out and I think Fiance forgets.
XOXO
Miss B.
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
Stress Level: HIGH Alert!
Stress is starting to eat me.
Just thinking about things (related to the wedding and future) causes me undue stress. I can't sleep soundly, I can't think straight, I have so many many many things on my head.
Since my announcement, MIL told Fiance and me to look for an interior designer (ID) - ID daw will help us pick out furnitures and other house related things. Their purpose is to tell us what goes well with what. What needs to be changed or improved. MIL also told me that I have to be involved with the renovations - so I will learn to love the house (whatever she meant by that)
And so I looked for an ID. Fiance and I have a friend who's an architecht (AR), and so I asked AR for some pics of his works, what he showed me are renderings a.k.a. 3D illustrations. They looked quite nice, and so I told Fiance. Fiance and I immediately went to his office to see what he's done. We also showed him the house and told him the things we wanted changed. He took notes, pictures and made a few suggestions.
Since MIL tasked us to look for an interior designer, I only considered the only one I know. ID1 is my friend from way back. I have to be honest, she's my only choice even if I haven't seen anything she's done. I sent her a text message asking for an estimate, she told me that she would get back to me after the holidays. And she did - she emailed it to me, and I sent it to Fiance.
Facts:
1) AR1 sent a quote via text message to Fiance amounting to 150K-200K
2) ID1 sent a formal proposal to Fiance and I amounting to 110K - I honestly was confused with the email. The wording was too technical and so I asked ID1 for a meeting, so we can be clear on the details.
3) AR1 sent a formal proposal thru email to Fiance - the amount was reduced to 80K and if Fiance can provide some more assistance, AR1 can lower it to 65K
4) ID1 was able to show us her works. Fiance was impressed. As for me, I already knew she was capable and indeed it showed in her works. Magaling talaga siya.
BUT - when MIL learned of ID1's rate - she found it too high. Since ID1 is a friend, I asked for additional discount - ID1 told me in all honesty that she can only go as far as 100K. I understood her. I mean with her caliber - she is actually worth so much more! But since I am a friend (trivia: according to her, I was the first one who declared that when she becomes an ID - my house will be designed by her! - I can't believe she remembered!) she gave me a price that is already presyong kaibigan.
So - what the hell is my problem?
My problems are:
1) If there was a budget involved - it should have been discussed FIRST.
2) I am NOT confident on AR1's capabilities - not at all. It's like this - you pay an ID, so they can feed you ideas. With AR1 - it's going to be the other way around, Fiance and I will have to give him ideas and in turn do all the research, AR1 will only execute for us.
3) I hate it when you compare two different things: like an Apple with an Orange! They're both fruits yes, they're both sweet and round - but they're entirely different in taste and appearance.
4) Fiance accused me of NOT considering a budget. Firstly - I never demanded anything except to change the wall colors and a rainshower showerhead. Its Fiance who wants a LOT of changes. I mean, don't accuse me of something that I haven't done!!
5) Friendship is NOT a bargaining chip to get what you want. It doesn't mean that when you're good good friends - you can dictate the price you want (or make them agree to a lower price that is beyond what they can offer)
6) BE REASONABLE - consider the inflation through the years and the current state of the economy. Do not reason with 'Kasi dati ganito lang ang price'.
XOXO
Miss B.
Just thinking about things (related to the wedding and future) causes me undue stress. I can't sleep soundly, I can't think straight, I have so many many many things on my head.
Since my announcement, MIL told Fiance and me to look for an interior designer (ID) - ID daw will help us pick out furnitures and other house related things. Their purpose is to tell us what goes well with what. What needs to be changed or improved. MIL also told me that I have to be involved with the renovations - so I will learn to love the house (whatever she meant by that)
And so I looked for an ID. Fiance and I have a friend who's an architecht (AR), and so I asked AR for some pics of his works, what he showed me are renderings a.k.a. 3D illustrations. They looked quite nice, and so I told Fiance. Fiance and I immediately went to his office to see what he's done. We also showed him the house and told him the things we wanted changed. He took notes, pictures and made a few suggestions.
Since MIL tasked us to look for an interior designer, I only considered the only one I know. ID1 is my friend from way back. I have to be honest, she's my only choice even if I haven't seen anything she's done. I sent her a text message asking for an estimate, she told me that she would get back to me after the holidays. And she did - she emailed it to me, and I sent it to Fiance.
Facts:
1) AR1 sent a quote via text message to Fiance amounting to 150K-200K
2) ID1 sent a formal proposal to Fiance and I amounting to 110K - I honestly was confused with the email. The wording was too technical and so I asked ID1 for a meeting, so we can be clear on the details.
3) AR1 sent a formal proposal thru email to Fiance - the amount was reduced to 80K and if Fiance can provide some more assistance, AR1 can lower it to 65K
4) ID1 was able to show us her works. Fiance was impressed. As for me, I already knew she was capable and indeed it showed in her works. Magaling talaga siya.
BUT - when MIL learned of ID1's rate - she found it too high. Since ID1 is a friend, I asked for additional discount - ID1 told me in all honesty that she can only go as far as 100K. I understood her. I mean with her caliber - she is actually worth so much more! But since I am a friend (trivia: according to her, I was the first one who declared that when she becomes an ID - my house will be designed by her! - I can't believe she remembered!) she gave me a price that is already presyong kaibigan.
So - what the hell is my problem?
My problems are:
1) If there was a budget involved - it should have been discussed FIRST.
2) I am NOT confident on AR1's capabilities - not at all. It's like this - you pay an ID, so they can feed you ideas. With AR1 - it's going to be the other way around, Fiance and I will have to give him ideas and in turn do all the research, AR1 will only execute for us.
3) I hate it when you compare two different things: like an Apple with an Orange! They're both fruits yes, they're both sweet and round - but they're entirely different in taste and appearance.
4) Fiance accused me of NOT considering a budget. Firstly - I never demanded anything except to change the wall colors and a rainshower showerhead. Its Fiance who wants a LOT of changes. I mean, don't accuse me of something that I haven't done!!
5) Friendship is NOT a bargaining chip to get what you want. It doesn't mean that when you're good good friends - you can dictate the price you want (or make them agree to a lower price that is beyond what they can offer)
6) BE REASONABLE - consider the inflation through the years and the current state of the economy. Do not reason with 'Kasi dati ganito lang ang price'.
XOXO
Miss B.
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