The BIG DAY walk..

And it FINALLY happens...

2009-03-09T07:37:00.000-07:00

The pamanhikan finally happens!!

FINALLY!!

Why do I say finally? Because it happened more than a year after Fiance proposed AND its already nearing the wedding day!!!

Thank goodness!!

Sa wakas!!

I am so stressed, on sooooooooo many things...

Just now - my USB driver - it sorta crashed? All my files can't be read and are corrupted!!

Shit...

XOXO
Miss B.

Updates! Updates!!

2009-02-23T02:13:00.000-08:00

I've recently no time to post, a LOT has happened since my last post.

Fiance and I were able to book the following:

1) I finally decided on a Designer!! After seeing what he drew for me (which took 3 meetings!) I immediately thought he got exactly what I wanted. I never expected to want wearing what he drew but, I loved it!! Gave the downpayment the week after.

2) Videographer - Fiance was instantly sold while talking to our videographer! The agree ment of just getting an on-site video was upgraded to a full wedding coverage!

3) Photobooth - I never thought Fiance will agree to this, but he loves it!!

Right now, I'm having headaches because:

- I'm looking for a good yet affordable florist!

- Looking for a lively band. MIL veto-ed the one Fiance and I want, apparently - he's not too lively for MIL. Magaling pa naman si Johnoy!!

- Looking for a cheap printer for the invites. I've actually found a cheap printer, the problem is, there's this invite that I fell in love with - and when I asked for a quote, the price was still within the budget. When I told Fiance, he just said to me 'I thought ok na tayo sa P55.00/set na invite?' Well, I changed my mind!! Hahaha

- Deciding on a contractor for the renovation of our future home.

- One of our Ninangs will be leaving for a long vacation - thus, we need to buy the fabrics to give to them and to visit that Ninang before she leaves diba? But Fiance and MIL are so bagaaaaaaaaal...

FYI:

Do you know that they haven't set a pamanhikan date yet?

What fun huh?!

STRESS!!!

XOXO
Miss B.

The patience is wearing...

2009-02-05T08:51:00.000-08:00

I never thought I'd get to this point.

I never thought she can be so persistent.

I never thought I'd feel this helpless.

I never thought, I never thought of so many things. I especially did NOT consider that MIL would become a problem.

Shit.. (it happens!)

XOXO
Miss B.

Indifference and Hate

2009-02-02T20:05:00.000-08:00

At first I was indifferent, but as things went along - I came to HATE MIL.

Hate is indeed a strong word - but that's how I really feel.

I hate MIL each day that passes.

I dread the day I need to speak to her, on a daily basis....

I HATE her!!

XOXO
Miss B.

Over the weekend..

2009-01-19T06:06:00.000-08:00

Over the weekend, I cried buckets.

I felt majorly stressed out! I never imagined that stress would be so draining and taxing!! Nakakapagod ah!!

I felt excited, and then sad, and then more sad in a span of 30 minutes.

I felt so lost and confused.

I felt like giving up.

I've heard so many stressful stories - I never thought that those things would happen to me, but it did!

Last Friday, I've experience my first ever breakdown. I mean, yes - I've surely had breakdowns before but this one, well - it's one for the books! Imagine, keeping the emotion inside for 5 nights! And finally being able to blow up on the 5th night? It was such a relief, but man - it was tiring. I never thought that crying that much was so draining! Hahaha.. But at least something good came out of the breakdown, Fiance was able to apologize to me (for his accusation)

I was able to meet again with Designer2 - He was so much fun! I was accompanied by Maid of Honor (MOH) and she too agreed that Designer2 was more like me. Designer2 asked me to comeback this coming Saturday, so he can start showing me his drawings. I was honestly excited for that!! But when he told me his price - well (I thought it was reasonable, I mean for his caliber -here I go again!) he was a bit more pricey that Designer3. Great. Just Great. So why so sad? Fiance was stupid enough to tell MIL that Desinger3 offered 185K for the whole package - Designer2's price was 212K. That's a huge huge difference right? So now what? Dang it!!

Designer4 was also a relief, he was highly recommened by Ninang1. He was very nice, warm and so fun to talk to. The problem? Well, he's not my style - he drew me a dress that I don't think is 'me'. MOH also thought the same - he was nice and friendly and warm, he also drew well, but it's just not me. I will definitely consider him when things don't go well with Designer2. He gave me a price of 160K

Tomorrow, I will be meeting with Florist1, and on Wednesday with Coordinator, on Thursday I will be going to Videographer2 (Videographer1 gave me an outrageous rate 85K just for an on-site video) to check out their works, and also meet with Florist2.

Wish me luck!!

XOXO
Miss B.

Meetings, meetings..

2009-01-15T17:01:00.000-08:00

I have endless meetings!

I don't even know how to schedule them properly.

Meeting with Coordinator next Wednesday after office hours.

Meeting with Florist2 next week, no day and time yet.

Meeting with Designer2 and Designer4 tomorrow afternoon.

I am kinda irritated that Fiance is still not giving me the go signal to book our videographer.

Time is running out and I think Fiance forgets.

XOXO
Miss B.

Stress Level: HIGH Alert!

2009-01-13T04:44:00.000-08:00

Stress is starting to eat me.

Just thinking about things (related to the wedding and future) causes me undue stress. I can't sleep soundly, I can't think straight, I have so many many many things on my head.

Since my announcement, MIL told Fiance and me to look for an interior designer (ID) - ID daw will help us pick out furnitures and other house related things. Their purpose is to tell us what goes well with what. What needs to be changed or improved. MIL also told me that I have to be involved with the renovations - so I will learn to love the house (whatever she meant by that)

And so I looked for an ID. Fiance and I have a friend who's an architecht (AR), and so I asked AR for some pics of his works, what he showed me are renderings a.k.a. 3D illustrations. They looked quite nice, and so I told Fiance. Fiance and I immediately went to his office to see what he's done. We also showed him the house and told him the things we wanted changed. He took notes, pictures and made a few suggestions.

Since MIL tasked us to look for an interior designer, I only considered the only one I know. ID1 is my friend from way back. I have to be honest, she's my only choice even if I haven't seen anything she's done. I sent her a text message asking for an estimate, she told me that she would get back to me after the holidays. And she did - she emailed it to me, and I sent it to Fiance.

Facts:

1) AR1 sent a quote via text message to Fiance amounting to 150K-200K

2) ID1 sent a formal proposal to Fiance and I amounting to 110K - I honestly was confused with the email. The wording was too technical and so I asked ID1 for a meeting, so we can be clear on the details.

3) AR1 sent a formal proposal thru email to Fiance - the amount was reduced to 80K and if Fiance can provide some more assistance, AR1 can lower it to 65K

4) ID1 was able to show us her works. Fiance was impressed. As for me, I already knew she was capable and indeed it showed in her works. Magaling talaga siya.

BUT - when MIL learned of ID1's rate - she found it too high. Since ID1 is a friend, I asked for additional discount - ID1 told me in all honesty that she can only go as far as 100K. I understood her. I mean with her caliber - she is actually worth so much more! But since I am a friend (trivia: according to her, I was the first one who declared that when she becomes an ID - my house will be designed by her! - I can't believe she remembered!) she gave me a price that is already presyong kaibigan.

So - what the hell is my problem?
My problems are:

1) If there was a budget involved - it should have been discussed FIRST.

2) I am NOT confident on AR1's capabilities - not at all. It's like this - you pay an ID, so they can feed you ideas. With AR1 - it's going to be the other way around, Fiance and I will have to give him ideas and in turn do all the research, AR1 will only execute for us.

3) I hate it when you compare two different things: like an Apple with an Orange! They're both fruits yes, they're both sweet and round - but they're entirely different in taste and appearance.

4) Fiance accused me of NOT considering a budget. Firstly - I never demanded anything except to change the wall colors and a rainshower showerhead. Its Fiance who wants a LOT of changes. I mean, don't accuse me of something that I haven't done!!

5) Friendship is NOT a bargaining chip to get what you want. It doesn't mean that when you're good good friends - you can dictate the price you want (or make them agree to a lower price that is beyond what they can offer)

6) BE REASONABLE - consider the inflation through the years and the current state of the economy. Do not reason with 'Kasi dati ganito lang ang price'.

XOXO
Miss B.

Tick tock...

2009-01-05T05:37:00.000-08:00

It's officially 2009 and since my wedding day's nearing - well, things are getting some sort of chaotic - in my head that is!!

A few days before 2009 hit - Fiance surprised me by showing me our 'home'. Yes, you read it right! Yehaa!! The house is quite big (for me) and it needs a LOT of work (in my opinion!) And so after looking around the house - well, we've sort of decided to look for an interior designer.

For 3 days straight - we have been going to 'our' house. Looking and taking down notes on what we want to change and maintain in the house.

I have still to choose and book certain suppliers for the wedding.

And to add to that - I'd have think of what Fiance and I would like 'our' house to look!

I honestly couldn't sleep last night just thinking about it.

Yikes!!

XOXO
Miss B.

Happy New Year!!

2009-01-02T20:01:00.000-08:00

Happy New Year everyone!! :)

It's finally 2009!

That only means that the clock is ticking - for my upcoming wedding. Well, wedding suppliers are still not complete! Yikes!!

Fiance just showed me 'our' house (yeyness!) it has a LOT of repairing to do! Hopefully we can finish before the wedding!!

Crossing my fingers!!

XOXO
Miss B.

Excited for tomorrow!!

2008-11-13T20:07:00.000-08:00

I don't know why - but I'm quite excited to attend the Pre-Cana seminar given by CEFAM at Ateneo tomorrow. Yey! At least, one down - right?

I super hope that my questions (the things that have been bothering me) will be answers, if not - kahit na maging enlightened lang. HHihi... :)

By the way - I've met with 2 designers:
1 - Kate Torralba
2 - Cesar Gaupo

I like them both very much! They're super okay for me.

The problem is - I don't know who to get! (since I like them equally!)

They're major opposites kasi HELP!

XOXO
Miss B.

Coordinator: Booked!!

2008-10-14T00:35:00.000-07:00

Finally booked my Coordinator!!

I got - Carol Sevilla.

Why her? Well, honestly - she's the only one I met.
According to:
Friend #1 - She's the best, we're in good hands!
Friend #2 - She's sanay and very OC!!
Friend #3 - She's very organized and she knows what she's doing.

I met her and personally, I like her. The fact that her aunt is mine and my mom's Chinese teacher in High School - makes a difference! Hahahaha...

Now, on to:

a) Videographer
b) Designer for my gown
c) Florist
d) Entertainment
e) Did I leave anything out??

XOXO
Miss B.

Updates! Updates!!

2008-10-06T20:39:00.000-07:00

Honest to goodness - there is nothing to update.

I've somehow forgotten that I have a wedding to plan in less than a year!!

Our venue is still in limbo. I don't want to discuss the matter anymore because I'll just be stressed all over again!

The food tasting was great by the way - and we're stuck at that.

As for the wedding coordinator - the one I was planning to get has already been booked. I'm meeting (my first meeting) this afternoon. Hopefully everything turns out very well!!

BTW - I was at Fiance's grandma's house for lunch last Saturday (his mom's side) most all uncles and aunts were asking me how the preparations were going - I had nothing to answer because in all seriousness - I'm stuck! Future MIL and FIL are hesitant to make downpayments more than 6 months prior to the wedding date. Even questioned me once why I had to make downpayment 'matagal pa naman!' and retorting back to me 'Ngayon lang ako nakarinig ng ganon' Would you feel better?

So right now, I'm doing things at their pace. Waiting, patiently.

I would like everything to be polised by December 2008. By January - I'd like to be relaxed.

On a lighter note - thanks to the many many friends who are willing to help me prepare!! I love you guys!! Thanks for all the support and help and advice!! Mwah! Mwah! Mwah!

XOXO
Miss B.

Food Tasting Part 1

2008-09-08T00:48:00.000-07:00

Will be at the Sofitel on Wednesday at lunch time...

Hopefully the future family likes it..

I honestly - have no opinion.. Why?

Because any of the two remaining venues are fine to me.

XOXO
Miss B.

Which venue?

2008-08-19T05:37:00.000-07:00

Will pay the downpayment for our photographer tomorrow!

I'm so happy! I don't know why!! Hahaha.. :) Finally! I can say that we've booked it already!! Yehaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!

Now that I've booked my Church and my photographer(tomorrow) - it's time to decide on the venue..

We're looking at 2 place:
1 is Edsa Shangri-La
2nd is Sofitel Philippine Plaza

Fiance, Fiance's brother, Fiance's sister and future MIL are keen on Sofitel because it's something different.

Future FIL and Fiance's SIL would like to have it in Edsa Shangri-La simply because its been tried and tested already.

I on the otherhand - well, I honestly preferred Edsa Shang before - but then considered Sofitel because of the location AND because Fiance built it up so well. Hahahaha!!

Now that I've psyched myself up to having the reception at Sofitel - it seems like future MIL might change her mind pick Edsa Shang! Hahaha.. choices, choices!!

I've told Fiance - if he likes Sofitel - he should push it himself, because for me - any of the 2 venues are GREAT for me. Any of the two venues will be alright for me. It's more that what I thought I'd like (to be honest)

Seems like a seamless planning is ahead!! :) Hahaha...

XOXO
Miss B.

On-Site or Not..

2008-08-15T02:02:00.000-07:00

I've declared to Fiance long before he proposed that I would love to have an on-site avp. And just the other day - when we met with our photographer PD - I was convinced to get his stills AVP on-site.

Last night, I was looking at the most popular videographer - and I think I may have to eat what I said - that 1) I will not get a an on-site video and 2) that I won't get Jason Magbanua.

Argh! I love his work! Sooooooooooo much!!

I'm still contemplating....

Help?

XOXO
Miss B.

Overwhelming..

2008-08-06T02:32:00.000-07:00

I've been sleeping at 2am for the past 2 nights. Mainly because I was busy making an excel file to 'present' to future FIL. You see, he wants me and Fiance to 'present' to him costings of an Event Hall receptions versus a Hotel reception.

Yesterday, I was chatting with Fiance, asking for help and support. Instead of telling me to wait for him so we can compute together - he said that I can do it alone. Dammit! I was irritated! I was the one who was calling all the hotels and venues, caterers and etc. - now, what does he do? He prints all the proposals. That's it! Argh...

There were moments yesterday that I wanted to quit what I was doing and leave it all to him. But the OC-ness in my always sets in. I give in to the urge and do it again. Who wins? Fiance wins. Darnit! I hate it! Its in my blood and personality. Damn you blood and personality!!

So today - we are scheduled to meet. I haven't told him that I already finished ALL the computations. I will have him swim in oil first - and then come 'presenting' time I will take the honor of doing everything.

Fiance is lucky that way. I just hope he sees it.

Oh! And when I told him I made an excel file and that he should suck up to me since I did it ALL MYSELF - whoa?! He retorted that I stop that 'suck-up crap''

Tangina ah!! (Konti nalang... Hahahahahahaha!!) Sorry for the language!!

XOXO
Miss B.

Scouting for venues and caterers..

2008-08-04T03:12:00.000-07:00

The search is now ON!

Finally got to talk to future FIL last night.

He wanted these 2 Chinese restaurants, but Fiance disagreed! Hahaha..

He wants us to compute and 'present' to him our findings: whether its cheaper to get a venue + caterer or a hotel (which has a package altogether).

Hmmmmm....

I'm now looking into designers also.

I'm shocked at the prices! 6 effing figures!! YIKES!!

XOXO
Miss B.

Photographer: Booked!

2008-07-31T00:58:00.000-07:00

I AM SO HAPPY.

The feeling is indescribable

I think I've never felt this happy!!

Hahahahaha!!

I can't wait!!!

Look at Pat Dy's works.

Tell me what you think!!

XOXO
Miss B.

Generous budget

2008-07-28T22:55:00.000-07:00

So far, with my friends' wedding preps - I've been noticing that they've been given generous budgets! Isn't that the best?

That's one of the coolest things ever!

I wish we can discuss the budget soon!!

Cross your fingers for me!!

XOXO
Miss B.

Guest List

2008-07-23T00:38:00.000-07:00

Fiance and I are now making our guest list.

This is to know which venue to book.

Future MIL said that we need to have a number, before we discuss with future FIL the plans.

So... we're making THE list..

Future MIL was nice enough to inform me and Fiance that their guests (MIL and FIL) are.... 332

That not including Fiance's friends, Fiance's brother's friends, Fiance's sister's friends.

Mine? I said about 250-260. But for allowance, I might just say 275. That's already including my friends.

XOXO
Miss B.

Checking venues

2008-07-22T03:13:00.000-07:00

Checked the photographer that I like - Still Available!

As for the Venues and capacity:

~~Makati Shangri-La~~ - maximum of 900 guests - Booked
Edsa Shangri-La - maximum of 800 guests - Waiting (3rd)
Crowne Plaza - maximum f 1,200 guests - Available
Mandarin Oriental - maximum of 500 guests - Available
The Blue Leaf - maximum of 750 guests - Available
~~One Esplanade~~ - maximum of 600 guests - Booked (paid)
Gloriamaris Greenhills - Available
Century Seafood - maximum 960 guests - Available

Fiance is sort of leaning towards getting an events venue rather than book a hotel for the reception. He says it might be cheaper. But for me, I think it's kind of a hassle - I mean you'll need to book all the suppliers, it's not as convenient as it would be in a restaurant or in a hotel right?

Hmmm...

XOXO
Miss B.

House Hunting..

2008-07-21T03:50:00.000-07:00

Yesterday, Fiance and I went house hunting.

After we checked out The Blue Leaf pavillion (we sort of crashed Claudine Barretto's party without knowing it) We walked around the venue (outside) looking in - I found it strange that there were ABS-CBN cameramen - so when I thought of the name of the celebrant - I told Fiance 'Parang party ata ito ni Claudine Barretto' and when we looked again - we saw her, at the buffet table. Hehehe...

So, back to house hunting - we saw 4 houses.

House #1
It was very spacious - although I didn't like the interiors - they used weird colors - but that can be repainted. The rooms were quite big, that is why Fiance liked it.

House #2
I love the feel of a 'Glass House'! There were glasses everywhere which made the house look big. I liked how they used glass instead of lights to light up the place during day time. Nice idea.

House #3
The floor plan was quite odd but it works!

House #4
Fiance said I will like this house because the walls were all painted white. Well, true - but the rooms were not that spacious. Fiance is kind of keen on having a huge master bedroom.

Anyone knows a house for sale? Brand new? Semi-furnished or bare? Quezon City area (New Manila, Sta. Mesa Heights, Banawe area, SFDM area) Contact me at myweddingpreps@yahoo.com

XOXO
Miss B.

Theme, Color, Motif

2008-07-12T01:37:00.000-07:00

I am so clueless on these things!

I have no idea yet, what I want!

But there's something that I want...

To be told the budget and the venue.

So I can freaking start the planning!!

Well, Fiance's family is odd - they do things last minute. And then go on blaming one another for the delay and the creases and cracks that will show up on the wedding day. Lots of fun right? To them maybe, but for me and my family (we plan ahead and hate to cram), unnecessary headache and drama!!

Haven't they learned anything at all?

Sigh...

XOXO
Miss B.

My cousin's out!

2008-07-04T23:33:00.000-07:00

Okay, the other day - I called my cousin telling her that she will be part of my entourage. I found her reaction quite odd honestly - but dismissed it off. She was sort of NR. But then, I thought she might be tired or something.

Just a few hours ago - I got a text message from her - she apologized because she won't be able to be part of my wedding! Continuing on that she has made other plans and will be out of the country.

Great! Just great! I was hoping for her to be part of it. I mean since way back - I knew I'd like to have her part of my entourage.

I just hope that it's THE real reason. Well, our parents are not actually in the best terms, but I was hoping she'd see pass that.

I've been trying to call her but... she won't answer. I've been trying to call her mom as well, but - again, no answer!!

I was hoping they'd all see passed that - I mean since it's my wedding right??

The complications...

Tsk.. Tsk..

XOXO
Miss B.

As of press time - My cousin has told me that she will be leaving to study in a nearby country. I asked her to come home for my special day, but.. I don't know. I have a feeling that she won't. I'm right now passed the 'sadness' and have turned into the 'walang pakialam' stage..

Permission to shop!

2008-07-02T23:42:00.000-07:00

My mom told me last weekend that I have to slowly buy the things that I like..

Like clothes, shoes, bags and appliances.

So that we won't have a hard time buying everything all at the same time. Better to slowly buy the stuffs already and just compile them all.

But here's the catch - I can't wear or use them.

Yep.

It's a little bit of torture actually.

But it does make sense right?

XOXO
Miss B.

Getting Organized

2008-07-02T00:17:00.000-07:00

Yesterday, before going to dinner, I stopped by National Bookstore in Podium to buy a clear book!

Yes, I bought a clear book for my wedding stuffs. (What stuffs and I talking about?! There are no stuffs, YET!)

Well, since we reserved the Church - the Parish secretary gave me about 4 long bond papers which were all list of things to do, things needed and a final checklist of requirements.

Which gave me the idea - to organize everything I should put it in a clear book! So I won't need to file and punch! All I need to do is insert all the documents needed and voila! It's all in one handy clear book!

Yey!

XOXO
Miss B.

One down - many more to go!!

2008-06-30T04:57:00.000-07:00

Fiance and I booked the Church last Saturday! (SSA it is!!)

Yipee!!

But as we were walking away from the Parish office - I felt scared, I mean - giving the reservation fee meant that - this is serious - we're really pushing through with our plans!

Yikes! I'm honestly 85% Scared and 15% Excited!

Next step would be booking the venue, photographer, and florist! After that I have to decide on who's going to make my dress! Yikes!!

One down, many more to go!!

XOXO
Miss B.

We have a date!!

2008-06-24T03:18:00.000-07:00

Okay, so the date is final...

Now, we need a Church and a venue!!

Yipeeeeeeee!!!

XOXO
Miss B.

So....

2008-06-15T18:03:00.000-07:00

Cold Cold MIL.

I have this friend J who was visiting from abroad. It so happened that I brought her to Fiance's house. I think it was proper of me to introduce J to my future in laws (at that time they were still BF's parents) as I found them seated on the sofa of one of the rooms of the house - I went to them to give them a respectful kiss on the cheek. As I leaned forward - they did not even lean towards me (so that I won't need to lean all the way) I was the one who noticed it - but then brushed it off. When J saw it - she found it kind of off. She then told me while we were in the car (Fiance was not there yet) I remember what she told me she said '(My name), when you get married - can you not live with your in-laws?' I asked why - then she told me that she found it odd that the parents did not lean forward when I kissed them. Okay - so it wasn't just me that noticed! Hahaha..

So last night - at dinner time there were weird moments:

1) When we were discussing the date and time of wedding, she told us NOT to follow the time anymore! I told her that the friend who helped us get a date told us that why did he even bother to get us a date when we won't follow it anyways.

2) I have been trying NOT to eat pork and beef for the past months - she gave me a hard time when she learned I did not eat rice. So now - when she learned that I was abstaining from pork and beef she uttered 'Eh last year ka pa nagdadiet eh!' with her knowing look (that was like saying - eh hindi ka naman pumapayat!)

3) During bye bye time - when I leaned over to kiss her - she did not budge. Her facial expression was blank and seemed (to me) like she was unhappy (it might be that I am just paranoid. To be perfectly honest, future MIL is not one of those happy faces you see- she won't smile at you immediately - but would wonder first - unlike me! As I smile to everyone who catches my eye.)

Now, my friend K has reminded me countless of times that I am NOT marrying future MIL but Fiance. I should always keep that in mind. But I get affected with these things, I mean I value family - and if one does not like me - well, I'm going to have a hard time becoming comfortable.

Acceptance - I need to feel that from her. I am actually hungry for it. And I don't know why?!

XOXO
Miss B.

MIGHT have the date already..

2008-06-10T04:05:00.000-07:00

Do I have a wedding date? Well, in theory - I do have a date, but there some complications.

Complication #1 - The time of the wedding. The Feng Shui master said that we should be married by 11:00 am!

Complication #2 - The wedding day - Sunday. Where in Manila will I find a Church that has a 10:00 am schedule for a wedding?

For starters - Fiance and I are leaning towards a Saturday wedding - why? Well, for the following reasons:

Reason #1 - We would like to have a rest day that is still a weekend! (Although we know that we get the week off work - because we just got married)

Reason #2 - We would like to have our friends over after the reception - so they can have an official rest day. (like us!)

Reason #3 - So we can stay up till the wee hours of the night!!

Reason #4 - So we won't have to stress on having guests leave early because of work the next day.

So ask me again - do I have a wedding date? Well, yes - BUT there are some ironing out to do.. Hahaha!!

But seriously - the reason behind this stress? Well, Fiance did not want to pay for a 'consultation'. What the cons of having had someone from China (really) to give us our date - well, we can't ask for changes anymore. At least when the Feng Shui master in in Manila - we can easily ask him/her for changes - right? Tsk.. Tsk..

Makes me think - will I be shortchanged? I mean like future SIL?? Yikes!!

XOXO
Miss B.

ALERT: Tinipid!!

2008-05-26T04:35:00.000-07:00

Oh my EFFING Gosh!!

I learned from future SIL that she was..... tinipid!

Oh my.. I couldn't believe it!!

And I thought all along that future SIL's planning was super smooth! It wasn't.

I also learned something - remember MIL being so weird? Well, future MIL was also weird with future SIL.

Yikes!

I'm getting scared to be very honest, super scared!!!!!!

XOXO
Miss B.

Impossible!!

2008-03-16T18:19:00.001-07:00

The date ...

It's going to be close to impossible to book it.

Church is booked!

Most venues are booked too!

Haha.. Might have to look for another date!!

XOXO
Miss B.

December 28, 2008

2008-03-15T21:55:00.000-07:00

That is the tentative date.

When fiance told me - I was shocked. Firstly because I knew that December is the peak season for weddings here in the Philippines! And it's already mid-March, I fear that the suppliers that I want will be booked already!

That's 9 months to go. I don't think that's enough time to prepare. Really.

I've decided on the Church - that's non negotiable.

I'll have to call the Church on Monday.

Dang it!!

Who will make my dress?! Will they still accept my entourage??

Dang it!!

XOXO
Miss B.

Conversations with MIL 2

2008-03-15T21:45:00.000-07:00

I never thought that preparing for the wedding entails so many details! I assumed that you'd only need to book the Church and the venue - and that's it! I was wrong, I was dead wrong! There are so many things to consider! Yikes!!
Since I'm Chinese - there are certain traditions that I need to follow. For one, I'd have to decide if I need to have a ting-hun (aka formal engagement) - my partner is not too keen on that, I on the otherhand - would like to do away with the ceremonies but would like to push through with the exchange of gifts. I'd like to make it as simple as possible.

But last night - when finally we announce that we'd do away with the ceremonies - future MIL interjected that: 1) My 4 sets of gifts will be given after the wedding - honestly, this sounded quite odd for me. I mean why tell me personally that the gifts will be given me after the wedding?! 2) She asked me if I'm already okay with just the 4 gifts - why the effing is she asking me about these things? I am in no position to answer! My point is - you give me whatever it is that you want, DO NOT ASK me that you need to give! You have friends you can consult with! 3) Since my family will be giving my fiance a watch - she asked if she needed to give me a watch too?! Effing gosh - what the hell?! what the effing hell!!

I was really offended that she asked me. I really am. It seems like every time she opens her mouth to discuss with me certain things - I get stressed, literally stressed out! More and more I discover that she's not what I thought she was. Honestly, I'm having low opinions of her - it's deteriorating. I swear!!

XOXO
Miss B.

Conversations with MIL 1

2008-03-08T15:54:00.000-08:00

Last night, I felt so bad. I felt like I was cornered! I think I literally was. I never thought I'd feel this way but I did.

The scenario: Fiance and I were in his room - MIL enters.

future MIL: May ting-hun pa ba kayo? (Are you going to have a formal engagement?) Kasi alam ko ayaw na ni Fiance.

Me: I want it to be really simple, wala ng ceremonies

future MIL: Kasi alam ko ayaw ni Fiance, pero ako - anything goes!

Fiance: I don't like a ting-hun

Me: Ayaw ko lang yung ceremonies like walking backwards and punta pa sa bahay.

future MIL: So that means walang ting-hun! Kasi wala ng punta punta sa bahay pa..

Me: I don't know..

MIL: Hindi, wala ng tinghun kasi sabi mo wala ng punta sa house eh..

I fell silent and I think my expression dropped. Literally. I felt like I was being pressured to agree on their decision. I hate what I felt.

future MIL left the room. I think Fiance saw me - I knew I looked stressed. It was really nice though, because he sat beside me and said 'Whatever you want, we'll do it' then kissed my forehead.

At least he was nice enough to respect what I wanted.

XOXO
Miss B.

I got my RING!!

2008-03-02T02:45:00.000-08:00

I was with Fiance and his college buddies in a resto in Ortigas Center...

We were talking about the ring and how it was stolen when...

out of nowhere - he placed a jewelry box infront of me!!

Here it was finally... My ring!!

I can't believe it!!

XOXO
Miss B.

FINALLY!!

2008-02-28T23:08:00.000-08:00

My then BF now Fiance has finally proposed over the long weekend!

He finally popped the question!

But am I ready??

I think... not yet, but what the hell right!? Hahaha..

XOXO
Miss B.